“In Sickness and In Health…
Till death do We Part,” is a phrase that always stays in my mind. I remember the time when I said this vow to my husband. We are married for 17 years already, but never my feeling for him falter. Every day is a new discovery. Every day is always a new beginning. I think that’s what love really means for me. Living with the one person you love without feeling obligated.
Many said that true love is unconditional. Yes, I agree in a way. But love is also about giving; giving respect, importance, affection, and concern. What you give is what you deserve. You give your love and then you receive hatred. It shouldn’t be the case. He shows compassion and you reciprocate with coldness. That’s unfair. Love should be equal. Love should respect individuality. Love is RESPECT.
Many couple decided to part ways because they don’t feel secured in a relationship. And parting ways is the only thing they can do to preserve their self-worth.
Our marriage surpassed many trials. We faced those trials together. It doesn’t mean that we’re very compatible. We have differences and disagreements, but it’s accepting each other’s flaws and mistakes that make our marriage strong.
Gratitude Journal: Thank God, typhoon Glenda is definitely out of the Philippines’ area of responsibility.
avi replied:
Yes very true. You also need to respect yourself in order to be able to respect another or expect them to respect you. And to respect individuality without wanting to impose yourself.
I’m so happy for you lani. You’re very lucky for your gift, your hubby and for your love for eachother. I hope you both have another 17 years and much more together. xo
2006, July 06 at 11:34 am. Permalink.
Lani replied:
Yes, I’m lucky because I have my husband with me. And not only that, I have many friends who love me also, like you.
Thanks, Avi. And I wish for you to find your special someone.
2006, July 06 at 10:25 pm. Permalink.
joy-joy replied:
hi lani. im happy for u. i want to share this with u. khalil gibran talks about marriage
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You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
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take care
2006, July 06 at 2:33 am. Permalink.
Lani replied:
Oh my, joy-joy I really love that piece. I thank you so much for sharing.
Be happy!
2006, July 06 at 1:17 pm. Permalink.