I said, “NO”
I tend to be overly cordial sometimes that is why it is difficult for me to say “NO.” It is so hard to disappoint other people whenever they need me or need something from me. There are times that I run out of money because I lend it to my friends or neighbors. Then I’m the one who is so ashamed to ask them to return the money/things they borrowed. Maybe it was because my parents brought us up this way; being always there for those who are in need, not just financially this I don’t have much as well as physically and emotionally.
I learned that to please everyone is very impossible. There will always be someone who will not agree with what you’re doing; who will not be satisfied with your assistance and support.
According to an article I read in Good Housekeeping, learning to say no is an important aspect of gaining life balance. It requires recognizing and giving value to your own needs as well as asserting them in ways that are gentle and loving to others.
We should also learn how to prioritize things. It doesn’t mean that when we think of ourselves first before others, then we are selfish. It is a wrong notion. We have our own life to think of. We have our own needs to satisfy. When we feel that our life is our own again, we will find that we’re far more available to the needs of others. When we finally have what we need, we will discover it is easier to give back to others. So, there’s nothing wrong in saying “NO.”
Gratitude Journal: My son is so happy going to school.
avi replied:
Miss Makulit!! You love this gratitude blog coz u can preach to me hehehe.
Yes i struggle with the same issue. It is soooo hard to say no, because of the disapointment it might bring. But you are right. You cannot always please everyone and you can not be there for anyone if you have nothing left for yourself.
Lets start doing ME ME ME and thinking of ourselves
) Jus for fun.
2006, July 06 at 1:36 am. Permalink.
joy-joy replied:
sometimes it takes a lot of guts to say no…
2006, July 06 at 2:25 am. Permalink.
Lani replied:
Avi:
Ye, you’re right. I told you we have a lot of things in common.
Joy-joy:
I agree, I know it takes a lot of courage to say NO.
Thanks my friends.
2006, July 06 at 1:15 pm. Permalink.
annabanana replied:
ate lans!
i love this new blog..it is sooo you! hugs!
2006, July 06 at 11:39 am. Permalink.
Lani replied:
Really, Anna? I want to think positive most of the time para hindi ako napapraning kaya ginawa ko ang blog na ito.
Thanks for visiting.
2006, August 06 at 12:15 am. Permalink.